"You don't want to be in love, you want to be in love in a movie."

"You don't want to be in love, you wanna be in love in a movie." -Sleepless in Seattle

This is one of my all time favorite quotes, because it's so true. We want the perfect, clean edged, blissful love that we see portrayed in the movies. Not the real thing. Real love is messy, it's hard, and complicated, a beautiful disaster. We think that if it's "meant to be" or if it's "true love" that everything will come together perfectly, no road blocks, no speed bumps, just a smooth ride. When in fact, real love has construction all over the place, because it's two roads come together. On the other hand there are those who will take any bit of lust, chalk it up and call it love. Hence, "love at first sight." All these notions are brought on by watching the romantic comedies Hollywood shoves down our throats. Don't get me wrong, I'm a sucker for a good love story, but as I sat and watched one tonight I noticed how it transformed my thinking. All of a sudden I was determined that I should happen to meet an above average looking guy who had above average goals who would fall in love with me despite my lack of above averageness, and our lives would pan out like a fairy tale. And this is the only way I'd really be happy. Grant it I was watching Cinderella, but still, things don't always work out. There's usually loads of heart ache and rejection before you ever find someone who can actually sing along with your tune, and even after that "it's not always rainbows and butterflies, it's compromise that moves us along" that maroon 5 knows what their talking about.

Anyways this subject has been covered a millions times, but it's been heavy on my mind cause it really bugs me. I saw 500 days of Summer a couple weeks ago and I completely fell in love with the movie. It managed to be realistic without leaving me completely depressed. I strongly recommend it to anyone who hasn't seen it, and a second time for those who have. Because that's life, getting screwed over and broken apart and then having to pick yourself up, put yourself back together, and try to find some good in all of it.

My wish is not that I live a fairy tale, but that I love the reality that is my life. Messy can be fun anyways, like food fights. Very messy, but also very fun.